Many women were asked, at some point, who is a perfect guy? Ofcourse the answers were always tall, dark and handsome with a bit of emotional, charming and caring. But who would have thought there could be another angle to the perfect guy.
How many of us follow our passion? Answer would be – A Few!
Could life be more demanding where you need to let go of your passion and follow the zombie trail – chasing money, doing something you don’t like, unhappy because you have no time for yourself or family.
But here’s some hope for those who think it’s “Too Late”.
- Mark – a former Financial employee, who I met at a friend’s birthday barbecue party, left his job to pursue his sports career in Squash. The sport made him very happy and is currently writing a book on how to pursue your passion.
- Shelly – a hair stylist from the United Kingdom – I met her during my visit to the salon that emloyed her. She was only 6 months old in my city. Asked her what made her get into this job. She narrated her childhood passion when her mother used to take her to the salon. She used to love the noise and buzzing from tools used in the salon. That’s when she decided she wanted to be a hair stylist. One fine day, she decided she needed to leave the comforts of her home and try another city to pursue her passion.
There are so many others I meet on a daily basis who were brave enough to let go of their monotonous and steady-income-paying jobs; just to ride the band wagon of passion and follow their dreams.
Follow your passion to be happy. It will be a struggle to find your foothold at first. The fulfillment, after that, is another level of experience.
Think about the only element in your life that you can lose and never get back. Once it’s spent you can never turn it around. Time is the essence of life. The time well spent will bear fruitful results in the future. In school, if time spent well will definitely lead to better grades. At work, time spent in higher productivity, yields either promotions or bonuses. In relationships, time well spent with each other, increases understanding and commitment with each other.
In every aspect of life, time has proven to be the most valuable of all assets. But it has also been taken for granted. For those who lost their lives or are on their death beds, always thought if they only had more time on Earth, they could have fulfilled most of their dreams and made the right decisions. There is no such thing as the right time. Any time is best time. Time waits for no one.
Let’s get up and use the time at hand to make life a better living, shall we?
Yes, I do know what I want………..but do I need it!
It’s true that, in today’s every so changing world, our wants are every so changing too. What we think we desire for is not truly what we need at all and what we need is cleverly disguised in our wants. I guess what I’m trying to say is we intend to want something and, with no further guilt, disguise it as a need.
In actual sense, once these wants are fulfilled, Humans tend to look for another want to satisfy. So the process goes like this:
- Identify the Want
- Make it a Need
- Develop steps in fulfilling that Need
- Satisfied – Yes or No
- Yes! Identify another Want
- No! Keep developing steps and if your still unsatisfied find the next best want that will fulfil your desire.
This is how we work. But somehow in this whole cycle, the question “Do we need it?” tries to surface. Depending on how desperate you are to fulfill the need, that question will either be ignored or answered. Most times the former than the latter.
This truly shows how much of a control we have over our lives. Not only do we get influenced by means of selling but we also do give in to our wants very easily. Maslow’s theory does point out why we do what we do. But do we need it?
Easier said than done! For ages, those who have been affected emotionally, it has been very difficult to let go than advising someone to let go. Ofcourse, why should we let go of it. Afterall, we’ve been extremely hurt due to whatever the situation was or by a person itself. So what happens after that, we either start seeking revenge or hide inwardly in order to not expose our vulnerability. Both consequences further lead to a pathway of more sorrow and pain. When will this stop? Do we need to find other means to distract ourselves from all this? This way we will only spread negativity.
Before we find solutions for what we can see, we need to analyse what lies within us. Have we considered what is that one element that causes us not to let go? Why do we find it difficult to let go? Is it our need, our ego, false requirements or social pressure? This isn’t pointing out that we are weak so we feel pain. No! This is about accepting pain and moving on. Pain, sorrows, unhappiness, negative emotions are all meant to be felt and later understood. That is the way of life where you feel pain just to appreciate all the good things in life. But why do we feel all good things have come to an end when we go through disappointments.
Simple! We are scared of the future. It is true that human beings fear when they cannot see ahead. It’s just like when we do not know where we are stepping in the dark. In this case, we cannot see ourselves happy in the future, if we face emotional hurt now. That is everybody’s inside story. But how we deal with this temporary emotional blindness differs from person to person. Some of us remain strong but shut off our emotions, whilst, others shatter even with the slightest touch.
In all this we completely forget ourselves, what we are, what we have accomplished and how we matter to the rest of the world. If there was plenty of self-confidence that we will be happy again, there would’ve been less time spent on grieving. We are worthy and the sooner we know our worth the easier it gets to let go. Why do we still need to determine our worth from others? Do we need others to acknowledge our existence? Why do we let our happiness be driven from others and not from within?
If we are capable of making others happy, then I’m sure, we are quite capable of creating happiness for ourselves and within ourselves. The world will always criticize what they think is a threat to them. Do not let people or situations change you for the worst. Instead take everything and make something better out of it.
Stand today in front of a mirror and see yourself from top to bottom. Remember the times you have made someone smile, the times you helped somebody through a situation, the times where you spread your love. There is no way of proving that your life isn’t worth something. Finally, smile at yourself when you realize that you are worth more than what you think. This will set you free. Let go of that thought that you cannot be happy again.
“We read to know we are not alone”
C. S. Lewis
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Every woman weaves a dream about her fairytale wedding. A ceremony that brings in emotions, creates magic, spreads love and joy around the couple. The day where the Bride and the Bridegroom see nobody but each other, exchanging glances. Where everything is made beautiful to create such an atmosphere where only emotions are exchanged.
The Bride dressed in white, adorned in her jewels, and nothing but a veil between her and the groom. Eagerly waiting to walk the aisle. The Bridegroom, all well-groomed and nervous, waiting at the end of that aisle for his better half to meet him at that point. With musical notes, flowers adorning the surroundings, smiles and laughter all around the room and then the first dance. It was as if wedding days were meant to be celebrated in such a way to remind us all that love does exist and is more beautiful than ever.
For every woman, it is a dream that everyday of her life, after that day, is just like a wedding day. But that can only be a memory of the day the union was made. However, remnants of the day can still be seen through the vows that were made. Through thick or thin, he will always be there to understand you, be your strength, to hold you, to carry you when you cannot stand any difficult situation on your own. To remind you of that love that was cherished on that day. And as a woman, be the pillar he needs in his life.
Wedding after may not be as perfect as it seemed on that ceremonious day. But life is worth living if you have someone to share it with. Hardships should be considered a way to toughen relationships and not be an excuse to get out of one. One needs to understand that if someone’s fighting for you to stay in their lives, be it fighting with you or the rest of the world, then know this that according to them you are worth fighting for. If that is the case, then that is a keeper.