Dreaming Bigger

One relaxed afternoon, sipping my tea and reminiscing on the years that rolled by. So many memories! Some good, some bad, some adorable, some horrible, some forgettable and some to remember. Each made a connection to my sensory nerves and created beautiful understandings. Made me the person I am today. But in that process, looking to what I am doing right now, I never once thought that I would get out of the usual line-up and start writing. I always did dream big, but I never dreamed BIGGER!

I’ve had so many telling me don’t take risks. I’m sure a lot of us do face that, planting a seed of doubt. Some of them say that our of concern and some, well, out of jealousy or lack of empathy. But at the end, how you succeed is entirely on you. Could anyone understand the pain you might have gone through? I don’t think so. Then why let anyone define how much of success you really need.

Don’t be afraid on dreaming bigger than big. As an individual, you do have the ability to calculate the amount of risks you can take and where you stand in your life. Just go do it what you intend on doing. The rest will fall into place.

Length of Life

If anyone asked me how long have you lived so far, I’d say so many years and counting. But if they questioned me on the breadth of my life, I’d go blank. Why? Well what have I done so far in life that I could see the breadth of my life is wide, giving me more room for self-satisfaction. How long I have before I reach that level of self-satisfaction.

The other day I watched a video on Muhammed Ali’s answer to the question – “What you gonna do when you retire from boxing?” His answer, although 8 mins long, made me think what have I given back to the community so far to promote peace and harmony.

Watch this.

Does this make you think? As individual, what can you do to promote change?


O·ver·am·bi·tious – Ambitious to an excessive degree!

One of the hot topics of individual concern is being overambitious. So many times we go ahead of ourselves with what  we should do and what we can do. Not saying that we are incapable, but, just merely pointing out the realities here.

For an individual it is quite difficult to notice when you have crossed that thin line between being ambitious and overambitious. This is because you are so focused on that goal that you don’t care to see what you’re doing and how you getting there. All you see is the end of your tunnel vision and everything around seems to be blur. But while you’re at it, you also tend to be pretentious too.

How can one identify whether they are overambitious or not?

  • Starting projects but never really finishing them. Taking on too many tasks at one time to reach a particular goal that you envisioned.
  • Any slight indication of failure to succeed leads one to drop projects or leave them incomplete with an agenda to restart at a later stage.
  • Too much enthusiasm leads to clutter of information on various subjects and, hence, leaves one in a confused state of mind.
  • Spreading yourself too thin. Taking up too many unrealistic plans at the same time, bringing yourself to a level of dissatisfaction if the plans don’t succeed.
  • Disregarding people, values, sentiments and morals around you just so you can reach you objectives.

Mostly, the overambitious trait does come off looking negative for any individual. Especially, when sentiments and morals are ignored and when the outcome of plans turn out be disappointing.

To me, patience is a virtue and to stay safe from turning into an overambitious person, it should be practised even more.

“Is is said that those who study the ways of ambition learn patience.”
Jean Plaidy, The Sixth Wife

They said…..

They said you’ll never make it. They said you should do this and do that to be where you are supposed to be. They feel you ought to act and behave in a certain way to be accepted. They said and you always believed, thinking that what they say is meant for your own good. But how good was it? Constructive criticism is one thing, but creating a social norm in which you need be the kind of person that will be accepted by all is another.

Should you follow what everyone says is the right thing for you? Long have people imposed their perceptions on you. How long before you realize that people’s ideology were meant to understand contexts and not adhere to? Nobody gets to know how you feel inside or what you’re going through in life. Now if those facts are unknown to them, then why do we believe what they think you should do is the right norm to follow?

Break these social chains where if you do not listen or act then you end up facing their resentment. Do what you think is right and be comfortable in your decisions. From people-pleaser to pleasing yourself. There will be a sense of peace if you follow yourself than what others have to say. That certain dependency will be lifted giving you that confidence that you’ve been looking for.

Believe in yourself!

Tip that bucket list….

imagesOk, so I’ve created this bucket list. There have been so many articles, passages, write-ups and posts on creating your bucket list and crossing each one once fulfilled. I too, like many ordinary individuals, prepare one for my action. Things I want to do in life and say I’ve done so. Things I want to experience and things I’m passionate about. So, here we go, I will strike each one-off that I’ve accomplished. I will be so proud of myself once I get this done. I’ll just keep the list safely in my book for now.

Days, weeks and months have passed. I stumble upon that list and say to myself, “Isn’t this the list I made last time as my bucket list”. I read it and cross all the one’s I didn’t do only to realize that I did not tip my bucket. Instead I added a few more to the list of things I want to do.

I guess the point I’m making is it might be easy to create a bucket list, but what we do with that list after is quite revealing the true nature of our desire which was present while creating that list in the first place. With all the time in the world, how is it that we don’t end up making time to do things we love doing. Laziness can be one factor. Another could be distractions within the world we live in. Daily we are distracted with stuff in life that, at most times, we forget ourselves. Unfortunately, we take life for granted and never realize that we won’t be living for long. In all honestly, would we have rather lived a fulfilled life than a life chasing the idea of living happy? The truth is you would rather live a happy life by doing what keeps you happy.

bucket_listOfcourse, your bucket list has to be realistic. I don’t think ‘Get rich and die’ should be in your bucket list. Look at what would you like to do or see or experience before you die. One of things I added to my bucket list was to travel a new country or a new city every year. After travelling to Thailand, Spain, Portugal, Brazil, Oman, Sri Lanka and different cities in India, I can say I’m proud to have been able to fulfill this one. Many more explorations and adventures in store for me, that’s for sure. And I will be looking forward to it.

After reading this, if you’re writing down a list for your own bucket list – that’s good! But it will be awesome if got up and went about doing them. That I would say is a fulfilled life. Tip that bucket!

Ripple Effect

22_kidswhispersEvery action creates a chain reaction. Agree?

One action from an individual always creates several reactions from different individuals and that in turn moves on to the next set of individuals and so on. But those reactions sort of distort one’s perception of the action in such a way that if a person is negative, then that action will be sought out to be negative. Vice versa for a positive perception of the action, where a positive person will perceive that action as a positive one.

Something like Chinese Whisper! Have you ever played that game? It’s fun!

It starts like this – All players either sit or stand in a line. The first person of that line starts whispering in the ear of the person sitting beside the first person. That person, will then, whisper that same message to the next person and so on until the last person in that line receives it. The last person will then need to stand up and say the message out loud to the rest of the players. The more distorted the message, the more funnier it gets.

Similarly, every action creates a chain reaction and that action is then perceived in a way the reactor will portray. So what is the right thing to do to avoid such distortion?

Well for starters, if the reactor needs clarity on how to perceive the action, it’s best to get answers straight from the horse’s mouth. You’d better ask the person right away than to look like a fool amongst many to have understood the opposite. One wrong perception, kind of, triggers a ripple effect of the same throughout. In this day and age, where people are highly distraction by external noise, thinking the right way becomes a super power.

Information is heavily distorted on a daily basis. Would it be right to make or pass judgements that easily? I’m afraid so. So here’s a challenge to those who read this article – Try going one day in a month without passing any judgement on any action, situation or individual. Can you achieve 100% results? If yes, then try moving on to two days a month, until you have practiced the art of not judging that easily. At the end you should be able to take in more information and be patient before creating an impression.

Is there hope for mankind?

Extremists grouping up, religion treated as a facade behind evil doing, people fighting, women and mostly children dying, residences turning into graveyards. How much more should innocent lives be taken for them to understand that its pointless to go like this? How can they say God is great and yet try to overpower Him by taking lives. Do they not know that taking lives is an immortal sin no matter what the cause? How can they link any religion to this outrageous act.

I’m a Christian and firm believer of my faith. I have no issues with any other religion as I believe that all of them, Christianity included, encourage peace amongst humans. And, in no way appreciates killing of another innocent human. I don’t think God needs any kind of favors from any living creature on earth. So why are these extremists trying to prove a point? The word God, normally used in prayers or praise and worship or while blessing another, has been wrongfully used while conducting these atrocities. Do they not tremble and fear the same God while killing innocent lives and the innocent of the innocent – the children?

Did they forget that God gave them lives on earth to fulfil his purpose and that is not to kill but to promote peace, love and compassion? I have only one question to them – if God does not appreciate this act, then how are they going to react? Will they hate God?

Even if we don’t put religion as the central focus here, how can they still think this is a moral thing to do? Their motto seems like kill one another as I will kill you! Then who remains if we are to wipe the whole human race. Right now the only peaceful creatures are the animals which happen to be below humans in the food chain. It will be wrong to call these extremist animals.

I am a Christian! And I love my Muslim and Hindu friends. And I will always welcome and embrace anyone belonging to any other religion with love provided they extend the same courtesy. I believe in love and peace! Do you?