We are all survivors. It is now become very important to stop and think in this fast paced life; and say I survived this. Continue reading
“It’s like I’m finally free!”, said those who break rules that limits you to follow your dreams. Continue reading
To all the men-folk, the way to a woman’s heart is to cook for her and has nothing to do with flowers, cars, or a diamond ring. Well, a diamond ring can be a cherry on top! We women dig men in aprons and that is a fact. The thought of your man in the kitchen burning his fingers to cook something that is worthy of you is deeply sentimental. Continue reading
Easier said than done! For ages, those who have been affected emotionally, it has been very difficult to let go than advising someone to let go. Ofcourse, why should we let go of it. Afterall, we’ve been extremely hurt due to whatever the situation was or by a person itself. So what happens after that, we either start seeking revenge or hide inwardly in order to not expose our vulnerability. Both consequences further lead to a pathway of more sorrow and pain. When will this stop? Do we need to find other means to distract ourselves from all this? This way we will only spread negativity.
Before we find solutions for what we can see, we need to analyse what lies within us. Have we considered what is that one element that causes us not to let go? Why do we find it difficult to let go? Is it our need, our ego, false requirements or social pressure? This isn’t pointing out that we are weak so we feel pain. No! This is about accepting pain and moving on. Pain, sorrows, unhappiness, negative emotions are all meant to be felt and later understood. That is the way of life where you feel pain just to appreciate all the good things in life. But why do we feel all good things have come to an end when we go through disappointments.
Simple! We are scared of the future. It is true that human beings fear when they cannot see ahead. It’s just like when we do not know where we are stepping in the dark. In this case, we cannot see ourselves happy in the future, if we face emotional hurt now. That is everybody’s inside story. But how we deal with this temporary emotional blindness differs from person to person. Some of us remain strong but shut off our emotions, whilst, others shatter even with the slightest touch.
In all this we completely forget ourselves, what we are, what we have accomplished and how we matter to the rest of the world. If there was plenty of self-confidence that we will be happy again, there would’ve been less time spent on grieving. We are worthy and the sooner we know our worth the easier it gets to let go. Why do we still need to determine our worth from others? Do we need others to acknowledge our existence? Why do we let our happiness be driven from others and not from within?
If we are capable of making others happy, then I’m sure, we are quite capable of creating happiness for ourselves and within ourselves. The world will always criticize what they think is a threat to them. Do not let people or situations change you for the worst. Instead take everything and make something better out of it.
Stand today in front of a mirror and see yourself from top to bottom. Remember the times you have made someone smile, the times you helped somebody through a situation, the times where you spread your love. There is no way of proving that your life isn’t worth something. Finally, smile at yourself when you realize that you are worth more than what you think. This will set you free. Let go of that thought that you cannot be happy again.
Every woman weaves a dream about her fairytale wedding. A ceremony that brings in emotions, creates magic, spreads love and joy around the couple. The day where the Bride and the Bridegroom see nobody but each other, exchanging glances. Where everything is made beautiful to create such an atmosphere where only emotions are exchanged.
The Bride dressed in white, adorned in her jewels, and nothing but a veil between her and the groom. Eagerly waiting to walk the aisle. The Bridegroom, all well-groomed and nervous, waiting at the end of that aisle for his better half to meet him at that point. With musical notes, flowers adorning the surroundings, smiles and laughter all around the room and then the first dance. It was as if wedding days were meant to be celebrated in such a way to remind us all that love does exist and is more beautiful than ever.
For every woman, it is a dream that everyday of her life, after that day, is just like a wedding day. But that can only be a memory of the day the union was made. However, remnants of the day can still be seen through the vows that were made. Through thick or thin, he will always be there to understand you, be your strength, to hold you, to carry you when you cannot stand any difficult situation on your own. To remind you of that love that was cherished on that day. And as a woman, be the pillar he needs in his life.
Wedding after may not be as perfect as it seemed on that ceremonious day. But life is worth living if you have someone to share it with. Hardships should be considered a way to toughen relationships and not be an excuse to get out of one. One needs to understand that if someone’s fighting for you to stay in their lives, be it fighting with you or the rest of the world, then know this that according to them you are worth fighting for. If that is the case, then that is a keeper.
The younger me was always distracted when in school. Mom would walk in during my day dreaming sessions. And obviously, like any childhood, I was shouted at a lot. “You better not get distracted and get back to your studying, young woman!”, my mom would say. Yes, distraction always meant negative. The moment I’m distracted, I tend to lose out on precious minutes or those pieces of information. Since then distraction was always considered negative (distraction = negative impact).
Until I met heartache!
I was torn, heartbroken, felt lonely and betrayed. All this behind that one small stroke on my face called smile. Held it all within only to realize that the walls were cracking open and that these feelings were trying to burst open to tear me apart.
Then, Eureka! I figured it out. What if I was distracted? What if I got myself busy doing things that I wouldn’t otherwise do? What if I put the quote ‘Nothing’s impossible’ to test?
I started reading;
I started studying;
I started volunteering;
I started participating in sports;
I started keeping in touch with people;
I started to write;
And finally, my favorite, I started blogging.
I distracted myself and turned a whole new leaf with my life. The change was tremendous, but it was for the better. I still look back at the dark alley that I walked out from only to see what I went through as lessons learnt. I still look into the eyes of the enemy and admit that I am no longer in their control.
Never knew that something so adverse could be useful in cancelling out something more unfavourable. It takes courage and all the strength from within to do this. For all those who feel you are alone – you are not. If you believe in yourself, then you wouldn’t need anyone else. Stay positive!
So once again loved and hurt. Again put myself in a mess that I try to get out of. Is it difficult to trust someone with your heart? Is it fair for the next person in my life, who may be trustworthy, to go through a thorough investigation process. By the end of it he might just get fed up. The words ‘I’ll never leave you.’ will never mean the same again if coming from who, probably, loves you. But because of the wall that you have built due to previous bad experiences, you may not be able to see it through a peephole.
So why and how do I get into this mess? Answer is simple. Like most, I seek companion ship. Somebody to be with and don’t have to try hard to impress. Where I can be myself and still be loved. And so when I do like someone, I only dream about the good things that will come. I think of the positives of being with that person. And with this I prepare myself, how I would act or react or behave. All good!
But, I’ve ignored the BAD. I forgot to think about the situations that are negative. What would happen if a predicament arises where I need to choose between him and sticking to my standards. Will I neglect what I stand by only because I love the good times he and I have shared? Will I forego the right only because the times I’ve been happy with the little companionship that he gave me. The answer is a big, wrong YES! I’m not about to lose that because of this. Sadly, the fear within me of losing that one thing that gives me a happiness gets the better of me. Tacking the dilemma becomes difficult.
But, Lo Behold! He starts losing interest and respect for moi (French for me)! More arguments, more excuses, more ‘you don’t understand me at all’. That’s all I get to hear. Then the emotional blackmailing and then the overload on your brain thinking what happened and why it happened.
So the actual question to ask here is “Why did I allow this to take over my life?”. I’m not against love, I’m just against the idea of what love should be. And losing your identity ain’t one of them (wished I could show but I do this whole snapping the finger and swaying it forming an S in the air. LOL! Those who know me can relate).
Why forget who I am for few seconds of happiness. After these heart aches, I normally moan and say I don’t believe in love. But the actual truth is love gives hope, a sense of purpose to live for most people – Unconsciously! Give it a thought. The whole warm fuzzy feeling inside is, actually, you appreciating life.
They say, “Be yourself”. There is a reason. We change the moment we find love. We start ‘EXPECTING’. This is only because we see things around us happen and so want the same to happen to us. Do not compare and you will be happy. They also say, “Be happy with you have”. Makes any sense?
We all share the same kind of problems and issues in love life. Somehow we see other people making mistakes and do not learn from it. There is no manual on love or life that you can follow. There is no rule that you need to stick. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and experiences. Those who hurt me – Thank you! If it wasn’t for you, I wouldn’t be this strong.
Love is a feeling not a responsibility. Love has to be felt and not to be fulfilled as a duty. Continue to love as all this world needs is Love!
When all you can think of is that one individual. All you want to do is keep him happy. All you can think is being there for him even it meant strolling late in the night in my jammies. Everything I say, do, think, act and behave revolves around him. Just to see him smile I would do anything, even if it was most embarrassing thing to do. My version of love is him!
The one who understands me and my thoughts. One you can read me like a book without having to say anything (I admit its creepy at times, but it feels safe to know that only one person can do that in your life. If to many then you’re predictable!). One who appreciates everything I do for him. Even a fight seems like an episode of love. The love which our souls can share other than our physical bodies. The more he keeps my soul happy, the more I will truly love him. This is my version of his love for me.
Love is to me is soulful. True happiness lies within your soul. And that’s soul mates last forever. Look into you to find out what your soul mate looks like. And that, my friends, will guide you to loving yourself and then finding that true love. It all begins from you.