We are all survivors. It is now become very important to stop and think in this fast paced life; and say I survived this. Continue reading
“It’s like I’m finally free!”, said those who break rules that limits you to follow your dreams. Continue reading
To all the men-folk, the way to a woman’s heart is to cook for her and has nothing to do with flowers, cars, or a diamond ring. Well, a diamond ring can be a cherry on top! We women dig men in aprons and that is a fact. The thought of your man in the kitchen burning his fingers to cook something that is worthy of you is deeply sentimental. Continue reading
Easier said than done! For ages, those who have been affected emotionally, it has been very difficult to let go than advising someone to let go. Ofcourse, why should we let go of it. Afterall, we’ve been extremely hurt due to whatever the situation was or by a person itself. So what happens after that, we either start seeking revenge or hide inwardly in order to not expose our vulnerability. Both consequences further lead to a pathway of more sorrow and pain. When will this stop? Do we need to find other means to distract ourselves from all this? This way we will only spread negativity.
Before we find solutions for what we can see, we need to analyse what lies within us. Have we considered what is that one element that causes us not to let go? Why do we find it difficult to let go? Is it our need, our ego, false requirements or social pressure? This isn’t pointing out that we are weak so we feel pain. No! This is about accepting pain and moving on. Pain, sorrows, unhappiness, negative emotions are all meant to be felt and later understood. That is the way of life where you feel pain just to appreciate all the good things in life. But why do we feel all good things have come to an end when we go through disappointments.
Simple! We are scared of the future. It is true that human beings fear when they cannot see ahead. It’s just like when we do not know where we are stepping in the dark. In this case, we cannot see ourselves happy in the future, if we face emotional hurt now. That is everybody’s inside story. But how we deal with this temporary emotional blindness differs from person to person. Some of us remain strong but shut off our emotions, whilst, others shatter even with the slightest touch.
In all this we completely forget ourselves, what we are, what we have accomplished and how we matter to the rest of the world. If there was plenty of self-confidence that we will be happy again, there would’ve been less time spent on grieving. We are worthy and the sooner we know our worth the easier it gets to let go. Why do we still need to determine our worth from others? Do we need others to acknowledge our existence? Why do we let our happiness be driven from others and not from within?
If we are capable of making others happy, then I’m sure, we are quite capable of creating happiness for ourselves and within ourselves. The world will always criticize what they think is a threat to them. Do not let people or situations change you for the worst. Instead take everything and make something better out of it.
Stand today in front of a mirror and see yourself from top to bottom. Remember the times you have made someone smile, the times you helped somebody through a situation, the times where you spread your love. There is no way of proving that your life isn’t worth something. Finally, smile at yourself when you realize that you are worth more than what you think. This will set you free. Let go of that thought that you cannot be happy again.
Today I did something I never imagined I would…………….
Most times, the aged old habit of writing your day in a diary was considered to be too much of a hassle or due to lack of privacy it did not catch on. But most of all, people were laughed at for keeping such a diary. I used to be one of those who laughed.
Now, 100+ posts later, I feel the best tool to vent out your thoughts and, moreover, give your thoughts a certain direction, is writing. Scribble, doodle, do as much writing you like, the end result will always be positive. Whatever emotions you have that has been buried deep inside for long and needs to be released to experience relieve, pen it. Read it and understand it.
If you think no one can understand you, then write it, read it and understand yourself what and who you truly are. In this world of distractions, it sometimes gets too easy to lose yourself. Trace yourself back when reading your earlier posts to remember what it used to be like to be you.
It is, ofcourse, difficult at the start due to the many fears you may have. But once you overcome them, writing will come so naturally. Sometimes, it isn’t about writing for others, but merely, for you to read and reminisce.
Go on then. Pen your current emotion down and see how you feel. Come back tomorrow and read what you wrote and the understanding will dawn on you.
Fact: Societal norms will never allow you to be different. You still need to follow what was inculcated in you from birth.
So, can we safely say this is double standard right there? How can we motivate people to follow their dreams when there are restrictions attached to it. How can some actions be considered acceptable? Is it because the outcome of it is a societal norm?
Why the double standard? Why is it that we cannot accept someone to be different? I would consider that OCD to people not behaving the same way that is acceptable to society. That is a bit extreme, don’t you think? In that case, these people with such disorder should also be treated in the same way as well.
When are we going to understand that we cannot restrict people to a box where you point at and say, when you get older, you need to fit into that box. Sometimes you just have to accept these differences and support them because you love them. It will be slightly disappointing. But heck, would it change if you had to put ultimatums and should they fail; they weren’t able prove their love for you. Selfish, don’t you think?
There is no point in motivating others, if you do not believe in getting out of the box. If you want to see change, you need to be the change.